You might not think that discussions around diversity and inclusion are relevant to you. You might not feel that you are in a privileged position. Yet if you are white or male, or both, you have probably had more or better opportunities than many others. What we are talking about here is not just socioeconomics, but the invisible and institutional systems that extend advantages to some groups over others. This BoF will explore different perspectives of these privileges, with a particular focus on research and software. The fundamental question we aim to address is: "how do you make sure that you and everyone in your team has equal and fair access to opportunities?" Come along to a safe, non-judgemental discussion around how we build a community where ensuring everyone has the opportunity to contribute their creativity leads to more fulfilling careers, excellence in engineering, and better research outcomes.